Spammers Aren’t Courteous!
How do “YOU” treat other people? Are you respectful and courteous or is it all about you? Do you treat people like you would like to be treated or are you going to be successful at “ANY COST”?
I can’t tell you how many people we come across in this industry or in life that are not respectful of others. So many times we are in a rush to get to a certain place in life that the attitude seems to be ME ME ME. 
Generation “X” is a perfect example of this – the I want it FAST and I want it NOW mentality. And why not? They grew up with everything at the push of a button. Can you imagine them using a rotatory phone? If some poor sap had a few “0′s” in their phone number, I bet you that they wouldn’t have any friends now days using that OLD rotatory phone. We are all in a rush these days but we need to step back and analyze how it’s impacting society.
Let take a look at the Good Ole Network Marketing industry. (Watch The Video Below) Technology has changed the way a lot of us do business now days. Case in point – The Internet. The internet has created an abundance of people that “ALL” want your products or services. Don’t we all wish this was the case! But it’s not and people need to learn how to use the proper techniques for approaching others.
Picture this! You have a brand new neighbor that just moves in next door. You walk over to introduce yourself. No longer than a couple of minutes go by and you start telling them about how great your business is and if they really want to be SUCCESSFUL in life, they have to join your business. First off, you know NOTHING about these people and what their dreams and aspirations are in life. You didn’t take the time to know them before you called them a LOSER and pushed your opportunity on them. This is no different than floating around social networking sites and spamming an opportunity on everyone you come across PERIOD
If you desire to be successful in your industry you need to drop the ME mentality and focus on being courteous. Using social media is only a tool and you need to be courteous and respect others in the process. Trust me, nobody gets into a person’s business only because of the opportunity. They want to first off relate with that person like a good neighbor and then in time, maybe they will join you on your path to SUCCESS!
Right on, Dave! I am becoming increasingly sensitive to those who befriend me on Facebook and other social media, and the first thing they do is a quick thank you (if that much) and “hey….check out my web site!”
I’ve gotten to where I simply send them back a nice note letting them know I appreciate the connection as well as their enthusiasm about their business, but I’m just not recruit-able right now, that I’m really focused on my own business. I also let them know that if they’re interested in what I do, I’ll be happy to send them some information, but that I don’t do so without their permission and blessing.
That usually either shuts them up and I never hear anything more from them, or they say, “Yes, I’d love to find out what you’re doing. Send me a link.”
Even in traditional sales, the best teachers will tell you to first get to know your customer and their needs are, and then allow them to convince themselves that they simply can’t do without your product or service. It becomes a win-win situation for all and nobody feels like they’ve been taken for a ride.
Right on, Dave! I am becoming increasingly sensitive to those who befriend me on Facebook and other social media, and the first thing they do is a quick thank you (if that much) and “hey….check out my web site!”
I’ve gotten to where I simply send them back a nice note letting them know I appreciate the connection as well as their enthusiasm about their business, but I’m just not recruit-able right now, that I’m really focused on my own business. I also let them know that if they’re interested in what I do, I’ll be happy to send them some information, but that I don’t do so without their permission and blessing.
That usually either shuts them up and I never hear anything more from them, or they say, “Yes, I’d love to find out what you’re doing. Send me a link.”
Even in traditional sales, the best teachers will tell you to first get to know your customer and their needs are, and then allow them to convince themselves that they simply can’t do without your product or service. It becomes a win-win situation for all and nobody feels like they’ve been taken for a ride.
@Steve Vernon
Amen Steve! Some people just don’t get it and some never will. Thanks a lot for the comment my friend!
Dave
@Steve Vernon
Amen Steve! Some people just don’t get it and some never will. Thanks a lot for the comment my friend!
Dave
Dave,
This is such an important message for people using social media. It all comes down to learning how to do things correctly in this space. I’ve been guilty of spamming in the past before I knew any better so thank you for taking the time to educate people on the proper etiquette.
Eddie
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Dave,
This is such an important message for people using social media. It all comes down to learning how to do things correctly in this space. I’ve been guilty of spamming in the past before I knew any better so thank you for taking the time to educate people on the proper etiquette.
Eddie
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@Eddie Espiritu
No problem Eddie. I was guilty of it as well my friend until I found my way. Meaning connecting with people better than myself who really understood this realm.
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@Eddie Espiritu
No problem Eddie. I was guilty of it as well my friend until I found my way. Meaning connecting with people better than myself who really understood this realm.
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Every once in a while, I find a post that I should spam spammers with.
This be one of them.
@Steve Vernon.. I like that approach. May I use it?
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Every once in a while, I find a post that I should spam spammers with.
This be one of them.
@Steve Vernon.. I like that approach. May I use it?
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@Paul Klaszus
Thanks Paul. I appreciate the comment.
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@Paul Klaszus
Thanks Paul. I appreciate the comment.
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This is unfortunately a topic that is relevant more often than we would like. There is a very large group (not just generation X) of people who believe that you can be successful by putting your sales pitch on every page that allows it. They don’t realize that all they achieve is irritation on the receivers part. This is not easily undone. I don’t know about you, but if that is how you introduce yourself, by advertising your business, without even taking the time to properly introduce yourself, you will have a hard time getting my business!
Joining a tribe and building real relationships is a much better approach!
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This is unfortunately a topic that is relevant more often than we would like. There is a very large group (not just generation X) of people who believe that you can be successful by putting your sales pitch on every page that allows it. They don’t realize that all they achieve is irritation on the receivers part. This is not easily undone. I don’t know about you, but if that is how you introduce yourself, by advertising your business, without even taking the time to properly introduce yourself, you will have a hard time getting my business!
Joining a tribe and building real relationships is a much better approach!
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@karin Amen Karin! Amen! Thanks for sharing your expertise on this topic.
Dave
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@karin Amen Karin! Amen! Thanks for sharing your expertise on this topic.
Dave
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Dave,
Agreed. Spam is not cool. Unfortunately this happens all too often in social media. I have literally had new friends on FB send me a business op in the very first interaction – or worse yet post it on my wall before they’ve even introduced themselves. Needless to say they get a gentle nudge…
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this with us.
Krista
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Dave,
Agreed. Spam is not cool. Unfortunately this happens all too often in social media. I have literally had new friends on FB send me a business op in the very first interaction – or worse yet post it on my wall before they’ve even introduced themselves. Needless to say they get a gentle nudge…
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this with us.
Krista
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Hey Dave,
Great post. It is so strange that people think meeting people on social networking sites and the Internet to be different than meeting people in person?!?! So many do.
I tend to respond the same way that @Steven Vernon does. Nice reply offering to get to know them and have similar results. Some make a connection others disappear!!!
Thanks again for sharing this with us.
Make it a great day!
God Bless,
-ed
Hey Dave,
Great post. It is so strange that people think meeting people on social networking sites and the Internet to be different than meeting people in person?!?! So many do.
I tend to respond the same way that @Steven Vernon does. Nice reply offering to get to know them and have similar results. Some make a connection others disappear!!!
Thanks again for sharing this with us.
Make it a great day!
God Bless,
-ed
@Krista Abbott
Krista, Thanks for your viewpoints. All we can do is try our best to change this approach one person at a time.
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@Krista Abbott
Krista, Thanks for your viewpoints. All we can do is try our best to change this approach one person at a time.
.-= Dave and Dawn´s last blog ..Get In The Game! =-.
@Edward
I agree with you totally. It’s the best way to approach it. One time I had someone on FB start a chat pushing his opt on me and when I said I wasn’t interested, he befriended me right after that chat. So many people just don’t GET IT!
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@Edward
I agree with you totally. It’s the best way to approach it. One time I had someone on FB start a chat pushing his opt on me and when I said I wasn’t interested, he befriended me right after that chat. So many people just don’t GET IT!
.-= Dave and Dawn´s last blog ..Get In The Game! =-.
Oh – you are so right about all of this! People just aren’t courteous anymore especially when it comes to hitting you up with their latest greatest opportunity. When are people going to “get it” that you actually have to “work” for the things you want. There are so many people walking around feeling entitled like the world owes them something! IT’s a sad thing:(
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Oh – you are so right about all of this! People just aren’t courteous anymore especially when it comes to hitting you up with their latest greatest opportunity. When are people going to “get it” that you actually have to “work” for the things you want. There are so many people walking around feeling entitled like the world owes them something! IT’s a sad thing:(
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Thanks Dave…I like your first bit in the video…it really is important to really be aware of what is going on around you and not trying to push your way through life so fast.
The other thing…we are certainly lacking in regular kindness and consideration…and spammers are a perfect example. I appreciate the illustration of the neighbor. People don’t really care that much about your opportunity unless they care about you first.
Thanks Dave…I like your first bit in the video…it really is important to really be aware of what is going on around you and not trying to push your way through life so fast.
The other thing…we are certainly lacking in regular kindness and consideration…and spammers are a perfect example. I appreciate the illustration of the neighbor. People don’t really care that much about your opportunity unless they care about you first.
@Glyna Humm Thanks Glyna for the comment. Life is all about treating people well, being courteous to others, having manners and etc… What ever happened to all of these things that use to be common place. Like a young man opening a door for a young lady or holding a door open for others. It is pretty sad when courtesy has gone by the way side. I think a lot of courtesy and manners stopped after my generation when parent and teachers stopped BEATING their children. I say bring back the good old days when a parent would smack their little bottoms! LOL JOKING! or am I?
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@Glyna Humm Thanks Glyna for the comment. Life is all about treating people well, being courteous to others, having manners and etc… What ever happened to all of these things that use to be common place. Like a young man opening a door for a young lady or holding a door open for others. It is pretty sad when courtesy has gone by the way side. I think a lot of courtesy and manners stopped after my generation when parent and teachers stopped BEATING their children. I say bring back the good old days when a parent would smack their little bottoms! LOL JOKING! or am I?
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@Bruce Backman
So True my Friend, So True! As State Farm might say, “Like a BAD Neighbor, Spammers are There.” Corny! but I thought that was a good one! lol Thanks a lot Bruce for sharing your insight.
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@Bruce Backman
So True my Friend, So True! As State Farm might say, “Like a BAD Neighbor, Spammers are There.” Corny! but I thought that was a good one! lol Thanks a lot Bruce for sharing your insight.
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Good reminders, Dave. I often get emails or messages from people who promise their latest product will make me a millionaire. Not only is it spam, but it's not even close to helping me find the solutions I need.
My online activities are mostly to find like-minded people who understand the importance of connecting with people first. As you pointed out, many are so anxious to get to the 'next' level that they try to jump past manners to get there. Spamming is not the way to reach your goals quickly.
You are so right! I remember when I had more than one 800 number call where someone called me not because he/she actually wanted to know more about my business opportunity, but to pitch me theirs. Needless to say, if they left a message of that sort, I never called them back. I would never do that to someone else, and I don’t appreciate it when people use a number that I am paying for to try to pitch me on their business.
Absolutely Right On Dave! It simply amazes me with some of the irritating tactics that go on. The path of common courtesy should always prevail – if you don’t like it when someone does it to you, don’t do it to them. Plain and simple. I’m all for getting your message out but do it respectively and with the bigger picture in mind. I just chuckle sometimes when some people seem to think they’re being creative in their spamming like it’s not blatantly obvious. Social sites aside, I’ve just been inundated lately with pre-recorded pitches to my 1-800 # found on my site. I mean they just can’t be effective, can they????!!!! OMG! people would actually respond positively to something like that???
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I love this post, especially the illustration of the new neighbour moving in, and going over and firehosing him with your business before you ever know anything about him. My teenage son said it’s like some stranger coming and setting up HIS shop on YOUR front lawn! Well put, I think.
Willena
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Dave,
this is timeless and I had to read and apply this daily.
Everyone is forgetting how important it is to realize that just based on doing 78% of marketing online. It should not change the fact to introduce yourself and build that real relationship with each person you come across.
It will work well for both in the long run of business.
Dave, your articles are never without insight. Your one of our great coaches in this industry and a supporter of all. Thanks for caring for all your readers and myself.
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love the post Dave. This is definitely something everybody should read it they are marketing online.
I love how you compared your next-door neighbor to somebody you might be pitching yourself to online.
Some people think just because they are online they can act differently. Kind of like how people sometimes become a**holes when they get behind the wheel of a car when normally they are easy-going people.