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Family Relationships – Forgive and Forget the Little Things

Do you realize that if you want to be truly happy, you must make all your relationships great, especially those with your family? I know I’m pretty happy now, but when I stop and think about it, I know things would be so much better if all my family relationships were great.

One of the important ways to establish and maintain a great relationship is the ability to forgive and forget the little things. We are all human so there can be many little things that occur. In reality though, true big issues or problems happen very rarely. The trick is to properly recognize that almost everything is little and respond accordingly. The true BIG thing is the time already invested in the relationship and the many years to come in the relationship that can be empowering and precious. That’s the BIG thing that must be protected and nurtured.

A misunderstanding is a perfect example of a little thing that can often occur in any relationship. If it’s a great relationship already or both parties are working to make it a great relationship, the misunderstanding is quickly recognized as such and then it’s forgiven and forgotten. My family has recently experienced your typical family misunderstanding and some in the family have not yet recognized it for the little thing that it is. It is being pushed forward into the future and allowed to grow and further damage some family relationships. It is very sad and I have been making efforts to help others recognize the need to let it go and move on.

In the past, I probably would have been one of the family members who over-reacted to the misunderstanding and caused more damage. Luckily, I can say that it is the personal development skills that I have been learning recently that have allowed me to respond in a positive and productive way. I realize now that it is so sad to allow a little thing to cause even any damage in a life-long family relationship; let alone, allowing it to continue to live and be pushed forward to cause more damage. I want to recognize all future issues as little things and work to strengthen and maintain all my family relationships. I will be very excited if some of you will join me in this goal. We’ll benefit immensely and so will our families.

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  1. February 6th, 2010 at 23:53 | #1

    This is a great video Dawn. My family is constantly over reacting to simple and small problems. I need to have my mom watch this video.

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  2. February 8th, 2010 at 00:06 | #2

    Great post. I have through about this over my time growing in personal development as well. I have come to the conclusion that forgiveness is key for both yourself who is giving it and the person who is receiving it. It is a two way street. What we give away we get to keep. Thanks again. Make it a great day! God Bless!

  3. February 8th, 2010 at 14:05 | #3

    Wonderful message here. Great spot for a video too that was an awesome message. Relationships are so important and are keys to our success I couldn't agree more. Awesome Vid.

  4. darlenedavis
    February 8th, 2010 at 14:48 | #4

    Dawn, You are so right! Family relationships are
    at the TOP of the list when it comes to living a
    healthy and fulfilling life.

    While we can only control our own attitude, that
    is bound to have an affect on how other loved
    ones perceive us.

    Dr. Wayne Dyer says it best (paraphrasing)
    Out of any adversity or problem arises a
    benefit or blessing. I try to keep that in
    mind …

    Thanks for sharing!

  5. February 8th, 2010 at 15:04 | #5

    Brendan, the same thing happens with my family! I'm sending this to my mom as well :)

  6. February 8th, 2010 at 21:05 | #6

    Wonderful message here. Great spot for a video too that was an awesome message. Relationships are so important and are keys to our success I couldn't agree more. Awesome Vid.

  7. darlenedavis
    February 8th, 2010 at 21:48 | #7

    Dawn, You are so right! Family relationships are
    at the TOP of the list when it comes to living a
    healthy and fulfilling life.

    While we can only control our own attitude, that
    is bound to have an affect on how other loved
    ones perceive us.

    Dr. Wayne Dyer says it best (paraphrasing)
    Out of any adversity or problem arises a
    benefit or blessing. I try to keep that in
    mind …

    Thanks for sharing!

  8. February 8th, 2010 at 22:04 | #8

    Brendan, the same thing happens with my family! I'm sending this to my mom as well :)

  9. February 15th, 2010 at 23:26 | #9

    Thanks Dawn for this great reminder that we're much happier when we don't sweat the small stuff. When we come from a place of understanding and forgiveness we become so much happier and at peace.

    I've found that when we're able to maintain a positive attitude it tends to eventually rub off on those around us. Hopefully your good example of love and kindness will serve as an example to those in your family who don't quite “get it” yet.

  10. February 25th, 2010 at 11:20 | #10

    I believe it is my only responsibility to improve MY self and how I deal with I cannot change my family members, only how I react to them. I am constantly improving myself, thus, rubs off into my relationships. It is when I try to change others and their responsibilities that I get into trouble.

  11. March 5th, 2010 at 05:55 | #11

    Strong family relationship makes Healthy Society

    A family in any society consists of an inherited group of people who are related with by birth or marriage. It is a relation between parents and children, relations between spouses or between grand parents and grandson.
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  12. Denise Gray
    March 6th, 2010 at 17:34 | #12

    Hi Dawn,

    Thanks for the great message from your post and video. I think we all need to be reminded not to let the little things become big problems, and that we should all learn to forgive and forget and remember what is important to us … our family relationships… and that all our relationships need love, understanding and nurturing.

    Thanks again I will retweet it and share

    Denise :)

    • March 9th, 2010 at 13:52 | #13

      Denise,
      Thanks for your kind comments and for your support. A friend reminded me today that not everything is a little thing in family relationships but no matter the size of the problem, it is so important to let our love for each other and our desire to have long-term loving relationships be our guide to forgiveness. Like you said, love, understanding and nurturing are required and effective to provide strong and loving family relations.
      Thanks so much for your retweet and share!
      Dawn

  13. March 8th, 2010 at 04:22 | #14

    That can be more of an attention problem than a memory problem per se. If you don't attend to things you aren't going to encode them and certainly won't remember them. It could be a sign of an attention problem, but if it's only this area of your life and nothing else is affected then it's not.

  14. March 10th, 2010 at 05:33 | #15

    In all relationships, it is how we choose to feel that generates for us the experience of love. Where you cannot see love, put love, and you will find love. Perhaps someone in your family is waiting in pain and longing for you to take the first step towards them with arms out-stretched in love and forgiveness. Be that one for them.
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  15. April 19th, 2010 at 12:10 | #16

    Hey Dawn! Great video! It’s so true. If we work so hard to build a fortune, what good is it if we’ve destroyed the one thing most precious to us…our family relationships. I think everyone has some strife in their family from time to time, but it’s important to realize that…underneath all of that…we love each other!
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  16. Melissaharo
    June 29th, 2010 at 07:52 | #17

    Marriage counseling absolutely can help many couples resolve their differences and have a successful marriage together.
    marriage counseling san diego It's sad but true… over half the marriages in the Unites States today will end in divorce. In some cases it can be an amicable parting, but in all too many cases the anger and pain will keep families divided for decades. When looked at from the outside, there is usually a very visible reason why a marriage is failing. You just need the help to see it.

  17. January 12th, 2011 at 16:19 | #18

    Dawn,

    Your video hit home.

    For the most part I have great relationships with most of my friends and relatives, but there are a few that I kind of screwed up… and what I mean by that is I haven’t taken any action to correct it. Every time I think of these relationships gone bad, it no doubt causes stress, and that’s not good.

    I guess there’s only one obvious solution.

    Great blog.

    Guy.
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  18. April 14th, 2011 at 22:08 | #19

    Dawn,
    Wow the family squabbles! I haven’t seen one in awhile but I can remember how bitter and awful they can be if not handled correctly. I will never forget a shouting match between an aunt and uncle at an Easter get together that had some dreadful results for awhile. But luckily the peacemakers and the people with the right attitude intervened and really healed the situation.

    Steve
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  19. October 24th, 2011 at 00:58 | #20

    It’s funny… I have always been the one to back down when confronted, even when it is not my fault… or let the other person think s/he is right and I am wrong. That isn’t always the right thing to do either.

    My own personal development in the past few years has helped me to make the distinction between the big and little things. I’m learning to stand my ground on the big things, which isn’t often, because as you said, they are not all that frequent. And I don’t mind being thought stupid or wrong any more, if it’s something that doesn’t matter.

    It just isn’t worth losing the relationship with someone you really love.

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  20. Sophia
    December 18th, 2011 at 05:55 | #21

    Thank you so much for your kindness. I have a happy family and I love them so much, but I admit that it is really difficult to maintain this kind of perfect relationship for ever. My family also has experienced the bad things and made us so bad. However, coming over the bad period needs that every member of the family make effort and also needs a member lead to the right direction.
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  21. February 22nd, 2012 at 01:54 | #22

    I think because we all grow up with our family and constantly are in each other’s business, and care more… we tend to also hurt them more. I’ve had issues with one of my family members for a long time and it was hard to keep our dealings with each other out of conversations with other people because it literally spilled into everything I did. I decided after talking with a good friend to try to curb my tongue and I found myself becoming more tolerant of my dealings with that person. I was getting all stressed over stupid stuff.

    We cannot control people, including our own family… and in the end, they are the only ones left to turn to in the thick of life.
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  22. May 8th, 2012 at 09:39 | #23

    My dad needs to see this video. I can so relate with this situation
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