Are You A Social Media Prostitute?
Now some of you are looking at this post title and saying to yourself “What the heck is Dave calling me?” I’m not saying that you are using social media to sell your body to others for money but, a lot of people are using social media to push their businesses to make a quick buck. To me, this is very similar to a “Street Walker” asking every John that passes her what can I do to get your money? When it comes to social media, are you going to be a force for good? Or are you going to turn to the dark side – ruining your chances and infuriating those who cross your path?
Are You A Social Media Prostitute?
Social media when used properly is about building relationships and not about instant money. I’m sure all of you see it time and time again, but maybe you don’t realize that you may be doing similar things. Selling your reputation for a quick sale in social media will be your demise in the future. Just like a prostitute, many people on the internet are looking for the quick buck! For those who use this approach, the money will come from time to time, but in the end, do you really think these people can hold their heads high? Building integrity should be first and foremost and then the monetary rewards will come in the end.
Unfortunately too many people using social media don’t understand these basic concepts. Everyone is looking for that Winning Lotto Ticket and will do almost anything to hit those winning numbers. Social Media is not a sprint. It’s a marathon! Building relationships for the future should be our focus and not about some small instant gratification today.
Now what do I mean when I say “Are You A Social Media Prostitute?” Let’s take a look at it from a funny comedian’s perspective to keep it lite and humorous. As Jeff Foxworthy might say:
Do you add friends on Facebook and then immediately pitch them on your business? Then you might be a Social Media Prostitute!
Do you upload videos on the internet mainly about your opportunity? Then you might be a Social Media Prostitute!
While building your relationships on the internet, you’re thinking how can I sell this person! Then you might be a Social Media Prostitute!
If you have more than two posts on your blog about your business and give links to your biz site. Then you might be a Social Media Prostitute!
When you post a Tweet that redirects them for a way to make you money, then you might be a Social Media Prostitute!
Dawn and I see this all the time and most of us don’t like it when it’s done to us PERIOD. We know how a lot of people feel out there. Times are tough and we see all this potential to make money because we have all these friends 
We are probably in the top 10% for the most friends and followers on the internet, but Dawn and I don’t use this social media spamming approach to make money. Don’t get me wrong. I would love to make a lot of money right now, but social media spamming isn’t going to make this happen. Your reputation and the way you treat others in life is what should come first and foremost! I struggle with this every day myself and want that winning lotto ticket, but I am not going to become a Social Media Prostitute in order to achieve it!
Do me a favor and leave me your thoughts on this post. Am I on target or should we cave in and become a Social Media Prostitute like over 90% of the rest of the people on the net?
Committed To Your Success!
Superb post… absolutely spot on. Personally we don't hard sell as we try to be selective who we help make money. These spam tactics are in danger of devaluing social media channels but I guess door to door salesmen had to go somewhere! cut through the chaff though and there are some great people of immense value to connect with online who don't constantly direct pitch…
Hey Dave,
Great post along with a great video message. We both agree with all the statements in here. Most people don't want to be sold, they want to learn, they want to build relationships, they want to connect. They sure don't want “YOUR” business opportunely at your first interaction with you.
Thanks,
~ Pat & Lorna
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Gets so old doesn't it Dave. I just can't get my head around what people are thinking that this is how you build a business. Thanks buddy for all you and that lovely wife Dawn do for all us in TSA.
The temptation will always be there to spam people just like prostitution will always be there. The key is to rise above it as you said Dave. It doesn't make us 'better people' it just makes us people who do things in a better way. Good points from Jeff Foxworthy's peanut gallery.
Kellie
Dave & Dawn ~ Bravo! A topic that needed to be discussed. I too hate when someone wants to “friend” me (and these people also are the same who don't include a short message with their request), and very shortly after I've accepted, BOOM! I am hit with daily messages requested that I check out their site or why I need to join their opportunity. No personalization or attempts to build a relationship with me. Anyway, just wanted to drop a short note to let you know how much I appreciated and enjoyed the short video & message
Christine
It will be fun to see how social media evolves! It's so new to all of us! We're all learning together! All I know is that you, Dave have given this gift of exposure to all of us! I thank you!
I have to admit, in my initial days using social media I didn't get this. I was guilty of spamming people. As I learned through experience, I quickly realized it's all about giving value and building relationships. Over time, the monetary results will come.
Mr. Cook, you are a straight up social media PIMP! lol
Couldn't have said it better myself, in fact, you did this so well that at the end of the video the person I was watching this with was like “Damn, now I wanna know what his business is.”
Keep on killin it bro!
Ahh man, you said it Christine. Those Facebook chats are the worst when I'm right in the middle of something then BAMB! I get a “buy my shit or loose” type of message. I usually just reply with “lol, you really don't get it do you?”
Lol, thats because its WAY easier for someone to get a browser window closed on them then a door slammed in their face. Personally, I've been guilty of doing both and I found both to be extremely unrewarding. It feels so much better to truly empower people you love in the first place. That's what life/business is all about!
It does take quite some time to build up that brand, doesn't it Eddie? But as we both know it's well worth the time and effort put into it. Rock on dude.
This is such a great analogy. Unfortunately the internet is filled with marketers that still “don't get it”
Very interesting post, I actually saw this on FB, and twitter before coming to your blog. TSA is working! The more I'm online the more I see the Prostitutes!
I get hit all the time with people who request me as a friend and immediately throw up on me about their business, it is really annoying. I try to let them know in a nice way that is not what you do. Some people thank me and others get defensive, those are the ones that I delete right away. It's all about the relationships!
Really a good one Dave.Love the title. You are so correct about making contacts and developing relationships.There is one on FB now that I finally hid her from view because that is all she ever does.Thanks for the reminder.
Thanks Dave, I am going to share this in hopes that it will help others learn how to use social media. There is so much to learn when getting started. Thanks Agian for all your training.
I think the trouble is that this channel is so new there are no defined ethics on how people should conduct themselves in this field. Just as radio, tv and press advertising all have protocols, social media should have some too… unsolicited contact / spamming always hints at underlying desperation in my eyes…
You make a good point Ronald,Social Media probably should have some protocols but just like it took like for email services to integrate the CAN-SPAM act back in 99 I believe it will take time for that to happen with Social Media as well. And you're totally right, it doesn't just hint as desperation, it's desperation at it's finest! LOL
“Social media when used properly is about building relationships and not about instant money.”
I love that Dave! I wish there were more guys like you out there!
This is a great angle Dave, very funny! and true! I'm not a social media prostitute thank goodness! I learned to do it the right way a long time ago. I thought to myself, do unto others as I'd like to be done to me.
Speak soon,
Gavin Mountford
Yes, Dave, thank you for this, it happens to me quite a lot. It's disappointing to find that someone you hoped would be a friend first, just dives in with some kind of pitch…
I was the same when I first started. I was sending out mass messages on Facebook and bugging the crap out of people. I thought that's what it took, so that's what I did. I've since learned and my branding has become quite successful since I've started focusing more on relationships than sales pitches.
Mandee
Great post Dave! Glad that I have missed the boat on being a SMP! It is great that people like yourself and Dawn are out their helping people and saving them from “a life on the street” in social media. I am glad to be part of that crusade with you guys.
Make it a great day!
God Bless,
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The whole point of “social” media is to make it “social”, meaning actively engage, a push-pull thing. If you're constantly pushing then you might be a Social Media Rapist! lol
New tools, new shifts always call for new approaches to doing things. The thing with social media today regarding marketing is it is demanding people to remember the basis of being human. This of course will pay off long term on many many levels and some of them could be monetary.
Spot on Dave – authenticity and integrity is what creates depth and quality in relationships – there’s way too much automated disingenuous ‘chasing’ of numbers that is a red flag for churn and burn.
Personally i’ rather receive no message than an automated ‘hey dude great to catch up check out my blog blah, blah – don’t think so! Leave a relevant comment, retweet, like, etc and now I’m curious about you! most people still don’t get it
Thanks for sharing
Cheers Kiaran
No Dave! We mustn’t cave in and become Social Media Prostitutes like the other 90%!!! Why? Because they just won’t last with very few solid relationships. It’s crazy to jump on to someone straight away and pitch pitch pitch, it doesn’t happen in the offline business world so it should not happen online. It’s tacky, spammy and does not sit well with me. Plus it is devaluing the face of Network Marketing.
The person you are meeting for the first time is a real person why not “take them out to dinner and a movie” first and get to know them as a real person not a potential dollar sign! Justin and I have built so many friendships online and in particular TSA, we’ve got a great network of like-minded people and we all work together to achieve fantastic results (much more fruitful than jumping in someones face so to speak).
Great article Dave.
Cheers,
Lynn
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Hello Dave
When starting to use Social Media as a tool. I was guilty of doing many of the Do you’s in your list. I remember purchasing several of the guru’s courses that suggest using Social Media but they did not teach the relationship building. Fortunately for me many people were kind and let me know what I was doing incorrectly and suggest the correct way. As you say unfortunately too many people using social media don’t understand the basic concepts. TSAmastery members are helping to alleviate the situation. On her blog Cherrie Bautista has a post, “Learn To Give Back Using Social Media”, which has ways to give and build relationships. Dave, taking a look at at your question from a funny comedian’s perspective as Jeff Foxworthy is very effective.
Thanks
Perry A Davis Jr
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Great video Dave… Funny title but oh! so true! I can only say that there are too many people dropping their biz-opp links on social media. You are right to unfriend people that pitch you right away without attempting to socialize with you and getting to know you. I never get tired of people like you who share these types of message! Your video is straight to the point and I hope a lot of people “who need too know” watches it…I will share
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